5 Ways To Deal With Rejection

As you make first contact with the freight marketplace, you’re going to witness rejection. It is inevitable. As great as you might be, not everybody wants to deal with you! This is the main reason I’m constantly coaxing you to build your contact list. These rejections might not be the harsh rejections a door-to-door salesperson may have to endure, but when people don’t answer your calls, don’t reply to your emails, or tell you not to contact them again you’re witnessing rejection. This can affect your confidence and your desire to make more calls and contacts.

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Perhaps, the biggest indicator of your future success is your ability to tolerate failure and rejection. When you allow rejection to upset you, it won’t be long before you give up on this profession and on your goals. On the other hand, when you learn to tolerate rejection and reach the point where it doesn’t affect you, you become unstoppable. Can you learn to deal with rejection? The answer is absolutely YES!

Here Are 5 Ways To Deal With Rejection

  1. Have A Vision And Don’t Lose Sight
    • When you have a large, compelling and motivating vision for your life, and goals you desire to achieve, it puts rejection into perspective. Remember, that one rejection is just a small blip on your overall journey to achieving your goals. Take your focus off how challenging the rejection may appear and keep your focus on your vision.
  2. Focus On The Positive
    • When you focus on your challenges, what are you going to get? More challenges! Think about it. Has focusing on your challenges EVER got you what you desired? However, when you focus on SOLUTIONS, what will you get? Solutions and Success. Successful people are ruthlessly solution orientated. When you’re rejected, pick up the pieces, dust yourself off, focus on your vision and solutions and get back to work with a smile.
  3. What Are The Lessons You Can Learn?
    • Rejection is a great teacher. Each rejection and challenge has within it a valuable lesson.
    • Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich says it best: Every adversity, every failure, every heartache, carries with it the seed of equal or greater opportunity.
    • The Bible says: Ask and it shall be given you. Seek and ye shall find. Knock and the door will be open to you. It doesn’t say seek and you MAY find what you’re looking for! When you search for the opportunity, for the valuable life lesson within your rejection or failure, you’ll find it.
  4. Nothing Happens Before It’s Time
    • Accept that it wasn’t right for you at that moment. There’s another saying: Whatever you resist persists. When you accept the rejection and don’t fight reality, the emotion disappears.
    • For example, when it rains, you can resist it by saying: I’m so mad it’s raining. Can’t this rain stop? I’m going to get wet walking to work, which will make my clothes wet, which will make me look unprofessional for the meeting…blah…blah…blah. See how silly this is? By not resisting it, all you would say is: It’s just a little rain. When it rains, you just accept that it’s raining and get on with your day. With practice, you can become as emotionless about rejection as you are about rain.
  5. Don’t Take It Personally
    • Finally, and most importantly, don’t take rejection personally. You can’t take it personally because rejection isn’t about you!
    • Rejection is not a measure of YOUR self-worth. When someone rejects you, they’re acting out of their own insecurities, doubts and fears. Maybe they’re busy. Maybe they have a lot of stress because their rent is late and the landlord is pressuring them. Maybe it’s raining outside and they just can’t stand the rain! The reality is, rejection has more to do with them, than you.
    • Once you get your head around this, you’ll have no trouble picking up the phone and making your calls.

Bonus Tip

Remember this beautiful quote from Steve Pavlina as you battle rejection and fear:

If you want something, ask for it. Accept the risk of rejection and summon the courage to ask for it anyway.


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